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 Trapped Ashes (2006)
IMDB rating: 5.50
Plot: Seven strangers on a Hollywood movie studio tour are trapped inside an infamous House of Horror and forced to tell their most terrifying stories to get out alive.
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Actors: Bartok Jayce,Gibson Henry,Lowell Scott,Miller Dick,Saxon John,Cox Richard Ian,Heindl Scott,deLeeuw Rob,Mina Mina E.,Rekert Winston,Russell Ken,Taylor John R.,Hiruma Yoshinori,Ishibashi Ryo,Ito Yozaburo,Horror,
I know what the obvious thing to do is, but what is right?
I will brief you on the back story first…..I lived with my boyfriend for one and half years. I found out i was pregnant 5 months ago, and he said he didnt want this baby. He moved into his mums house (as the flat is mine).He said alot of nasty things to me like I have done it on purpose to trap him, and I am using him for his money ( unemployed musician!)ect. So there has been alot of horrible things said both ways, I am certinly not whiter then white, but im not the the one who is in the wrong either.
What i consider the ultimate betrayal is that he has told all of his friends and family that Im mad and a user, and has painted me out to be some crazy sperm catcher! Which is not the case. Dispite all of this he definatly wants to be apart of his child life, and I would never ever prevent that.
Anyway, needless to say we are not a couple anymore. Over the past month, I made a real effort to try and get on his good side. I sent him a photo of us, cooked him a meal, and made it clear I wanted to move past this and try and create a family unit. He on the other hand hasn’t even apologized for the things he has said, he really feels justified in everything he has done to me. After a telephone argument, (where he again tried to convince me i was crazy), i siad to him and vowed to myself that i would never ever get into a relationship with him again. i promised myself that i would never be with someone who had such a low opinion of me. I have focused on my job and pregnancy. ( sorry i know im babbling)..
I had a text from him the other day saying he missed me, and wanted us to be a family. I sent him an email telling him we will never be an item and i deserve better. I gave it all the ‘miss independent i can do it all by myself’ talk.
He has said such awful things to me and about me, and left me when I needed him most, and wont even apologize, even after all of this time.
I know the obvious thing to do is to have my baby alone, and be with someone who wouldnt treat me like this, but another side of me is yelling…. Ash, he panicked, You (meaning I) said some nasty things too, my baby deserves for me to at least try and have a family unit, is it really worth not trying over a sorry? Does me being stuborn help the suituation? He is my first love. Can we get back our tight bond we once had? I am 24, he is 27, we are still growing arnt we?
The betrayle of him insulting me to his family and friends means I feel i can never be around them again, (they have obviously agreed with him and been his support), but then should i just get over it?
Im sorry, i know iv babbled on and on, and I probably sound like a silly girl. And I know there is no shame in being a single mother. My mother raised four of us by herseld, and she is a strong women who i look up to.
I cant belive i have turned into one of thoses women who say ‘but i love him’, but i really do. When we were togeather he was the best boyfriend in the world. Should I forgive him, and let him back in? or carry on missing him, hoping thigs will get easier?
Thank you for reading this. Please respond if u feel to ( try not to b
e cruel).xxxx
just o add, to be compleatly fair, in did used to work, but only a temping job. and that was on off. Also, i have a feeling he said and did all this so he could enjoy himself with his friends for a while, and now he has run out of money he wants to come back. Dont get me wrong though, i dont really have a problem with him getting all the partying out his sysyem but i dont want to be used either. However, saying that, he has and will never lie. and i know he loves me . well he thinks he does. wheather thats true or not i dont know. il shut up now
im not sure how to relpy??
Barbra, your post made me cry. my mum calls him a baby, i think u may be right, and please, by no means am i a door mat. i know thats how it comes across. he said he will set up a direct debit for the baby so, as long as he’s working he will pay, and if he isnt working he will pay ?20 per week.
To be honest i think alot of it is lonliness. im lonley without him. but i think ur right. Just not sure if its the fair thing to do for all concerned
It’s a really difficult one because it depends what type of lifestyle you have. I think you should speak to him to always be there for you and your child even if your not together! He clearly misses you! And i know its such a bad thing he said all that to his family and friends but people do all sorts of stupid things when pregnancy is involved. Maybe hes scared about it? Personally i think you just have to talk to him and ask him to be around for you and the child first. You never know what could happen for the both of you after that! Having the baby may bring you two a thousand times closer together and may change the way he treats you. good luck! xxx
Jam | Oct 14, 2009
Dear one,
In truth, you don’t love this man. You love stability and since he is the father of your child, he represents stability. Well, you couldn’t be more wrong. You couldn’t be more wrong.
He has said and done some unthinkable things. He can’t support you or your child (unemployed musician). He is a coward and a cad for saying you tried to entrap him and on and on. He is a truly horrid little man. AND he is beneath you.
Insofar as loving you? No. Dear one, face the fact that he absolutely does NOT love you - he loves your apartment and loves it that you are a willing bedmate and care-taker. He loves (as if he could love) himself and his independance. He is a large child. You have a baby on the way - please don’t take on raising another child (namely this horrid little man)
Now then. You don’t want him back - you want your dignity back. I suggest - no, I urge - you meet with a counselor to help you develop the tools you need to build the kind of life you want with your child
Now. I don’t know what the laws are in your area but here in the US, fathers are responsible for paying child support. I suggest you contact a good lawyer to determine what your and especially your child’s rights are. Your ex may be required to pay child support whether he likes it or not - in the US, dead-beat parents face jail time.
So the obvious thing is - yes - move on from this man - but protect your child’s rights.
See a good lawyer.
And remember, you don’t love this man - he doesn’t deserve your love.
Barbara B | Oct 14, 2009
no one can really tell you what to do, it is totally and completely up to you.
its your decision on whether or not you wish to forgive him and move past it (if you do get back together however i would think it a good idea to not bring it up again in future arguements it will only make things worse) if you really truly love him and feel you can forgive him then you should give it another go, but not just because your having a baby but because you love each other.
maybe it would also be a good idea to try to talk to his family and see what they actually think of the situation they may not have taken his side exactly just it’s easy to believe a one sided story (its always better to talk to people who really love and care about both of you and can give an honest opinion)
as for the mean things said, in the heat of the moment things do get said most of the time people do not mean them you said yourself you also said some things to him i wouldn’t dwell on those thoughts too much
i’d just say talk to him see how he feels also and don’t get back together just because it’s your first love and you feel noone will love you as much because trust me from personal experience this is not true! my first boyfriend and i always argued and said mean things to each other but i took him back every time!! mistake… i now have a wondefrul boyfriend who doesnt talk to me like an idiot and actually respects me, as the old saying goes there’s plenty more fish in the sea!
god now i’m babbling!!
hope this is of some help to you!!
also, just one last thing - i’m not condoning his actions in anyway but perhaps he did get scared it’s quite a huge deal becoming a father! and he needed a little time to get used to the idea… anyway enough of my talk, talk to each other its the best thing!! x
kayleigh r | Oct 14, 2009